Office Desk 2021 Calendar: -The key to personal transformation is in your willingness to do very tiny things—but to do them today. Transformation is not an all-or-nothing game, it’s a work in progress. A little touch here Office Desk 2021 Calendars and there is what makes your day (and, therefore, your life) great. Today is a microcosm of your entire life. It is your whole life in miniature. You were “born” when you woke up, and you’ll “die” when you go to sleep. It was designed this way so that you could live your whole life in a day. Bad habits simply cannot be broken. Nor can they be gotten rid of. Ask the millions who continue to try. They always end up, in the words of author Richard Brautigan, “trying to shovel mercury with a pitchfork,” because our bad habits exist for good reasons. They’re there to do something for us, even if that something ends up being self-destructive. Down deep, even a bad habit is trying to make us operate better. People who smoke are trying, even though their addiction, to do something beneficial—perhaps to breathe deeply and relax. Such breathing is needed to balance stress, so their smoking is a way in which they are trying to make themselves better. Bad habits are like that—they are based on a perceived benefit. That’s why they’re impossible to just “get rid of.”
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That’s why habits must be respected and understood before they can be transformed. What created the habit must be built upon, not killed. We must go to the beneficial impulse that drives the habit, and then expand on that to make the habit grow from something bad into something good. Let’s take drinking as an example. I’ve known people who used to be drunk all the time who are now sober all the time. How did they do it? Couldn’t we just say that they just got rid of their drinking habit? Not really. Because, without exception, the recovered people I know replaced their drinking with something else. Taking all of one’s courage, relaxation, and spirituality from a bottle of alcohol is a very damaging habit. But to simply eliminate it leads to even worse problems: detoxing, fear, dread, paranoia. A total void.
People who join Alcoholics Anonymous, however, replace their “false courage”—once found in a bottle of alcohol —with real courage found in the meeting rooms of AA. The completely artificial sense of spirituality formerly found in a tumbler of spirits is replaced by the true and deeply personal spirituality found in working the 12-step program of enlightenment. The superficial but highly emotional relationships the alcoholic makes in his favorite bars are replaced by real friendships. Replacement is powerful because it works, and where bad habits are concerned it’s the only thing that works. I’ve known people who quit smoking without intending to. They took up running, or some form of regular aerobic exercise, and soon the breathing and relaxation they were getting from the exercise made the smoking feel bad to their bodies. They quit smoking because they had introduced a replacement. People who diet have the same experience. It isn’t staying away from fattening food that works—it’s introducing a regular diet of delicious, healthy food that works. It’s a replacement.
Subconsciously you don’t think your bad habits are bad! And that’s because they’re filling a perceived need. So the way to strengthen yourself is to identify the need and honor it. Honor the need by replacing the current habit with one that is healthier and more effective. Replace one habit, and soon you’ll be motivated to replace another. We’ve always been a little nervous, culturally, about talking to ourselves. We usually associate it with insanity. But it was Plato who said that his definition of thinking was “the soul talking to itself.” If you really want to get your life worked out, there is no one better to talk to than yourself and these Monthly 2021 Calendars are the part of it. No other person has as much information about your problems and no other person knows your skills and capabilities better. And there’s no one else who can do more for you than yourself.
A lot of people in the motivational and psychological professions recommend affirmations. You choose a sentence to say, such as, “Every day in every way I’m getting better and better,” and repeat it whether or not you think it’s true. While affirmations are a good first step to reprogramming, I prefer conversations. Conversations work faster.